I will never forget the words that a friend said to me just days after my miscarriage. “Once a mama, always a mama.” Those words have stuck with me after all of these years. Because the truth is, there’s no stranger feeling than going into the hospital as a mom, then leaving the hospital with no child. It’s confusing, overwhelming, and incredibly painful.
But my friend was right. I was still a mom, even without my child. I always had and will always have a mama’s heart for that sweet baby. And while I now have children on this earth, I know that so many of you amazing mamas are missing your children or praying that you will one day have children.
For those of you going through infertility or loss, I know that Mother’s Day is one of the toughest days. There’s so much focus on moms with children. But what about the moms without a baby to show for it?
You need to know the truth about yourself, and that is that you ARE a mama. You have a mama’s heart, a mama’s calling in life, and you are created to be a mom. No, you may not have a child to show for it. But you are still a mom. Once a mom, always a mom. Even if that motherhood is a desire from deep within.
While there is a heaviness, there is also something worth celebrating here. Your love for your child or children is stronger than anyone could ever imagine! Your sacrifice for them is unmatched, and your dedication to them is everything. Your little one lives on through your prayers and thoughts, and God hears them. I truly believe He has your baby, taking care of their everyday needs and loving them until you can one day meet them again or for the first time.
He hears you, He knows you, and He loves you. And we love you. From the JOL community, to the mama without a baby on Mother’s Day, we surround you and support you. Happy Mother’s Day, dear friend, for you are forever a mama! ❤️
Cheryl says:
Thank you for posting such insightful and healing words.